Table of Contents for The Heart of Grief: Death and the Search for Lasting Love


Preface
Acknowledgments

I. PLACES IN THE HEART

  • Where Are They Now?
  • Living with Sadness
  • Carrying the Hurt
  • Longing for Their Return
  • Believing They Live On
  • Ghosts and Other Contacts
  • Loving in Separation
  • Good and Troubled Loving
  • Receiving Their Legacies
  • Giving Them Places in Our Hearts
  • Lasting Love Is Good for Them
  • Lasting Love Is Good for Us
  • Learning to Love in a New Way

II. TRANSITIONS TO LASTING LOVE

  • Taking Leave and Opening Our Hearts
  • Missed Opportunities
  • Frozen Scenes and Rivers in Buckets
  • Investing Ourselves in Ceremonies
  • Choosing Our Own Ways
  • Conflict about Ceremonies

III. MEMORIES

  • Holding Them in Memory
  • Unfinished Business
  • Negative Ties That Bind Us
  • Horrific Memories
  • Memories and Dying Days
  • Remembering at the Time of Death
  • Fragile and Fleeting Memories
  • Incomplete and Partial Memories
  • Richly Meaningful Memories
  • The Dance Continues in Memory

IV. PRACTICAL LIFE

  • They Are with Us in Our Practical Lives
  • Acting on Promises
  • Using Their Advice and Counsel
  • Doing Things Their Way
  • Following in Their Footsteps
  • Making Their Cares and Interests Our Own

V. LIFE OF THE SOUL: RETURNING HOME

  • Loss and Soul Pain
  • Choosing How We Approach Our Hurt
  • They Are with Us in Our Souls
  • Meeting Them in Things They Leave Behind
  • Soul Food and Soul Music
  • Meeting Them in Familiar Places
  • Seeing Them in Others
  • Finding Our Roots in Their Life Stories
  • Touching Our Souls in Mysterious Ways
  • Learning to Be Soulful

VI. LIFE OF THE SPIRIT: REVIVING HOPE

  • Loss and Spiritual Pain
  • Their Spirits Are with Us
  • Resilience
  • Searching
  • Changing and Growing
  • Striving
  • Joy and Adventure

Afterword

  • Grief Is a Journey of the Heart

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